Our Story

Founders, Ashley Wells, Corinne Paul, Becky Raver, and Katy Adams (left to right)

Founders, Ashley Wells, Corinne Paul, Becky Raver, and Katy Adams (left to right)


Who We Are

What began as a trio of foster and adoptive moms who grew and blossomed into a community of women on a journey.

The journey to love and care for children from hard places.

With the vision of Ashley Wells, we held a foster and adoptive moms retreat…and what a beautiful, profound vision it was. The first retreat in 2015 was simply God-sent. Each retreat that followed, we heard the same sentiments from our attendees:

I have never felt so seen and accepted.
I’ve never felt so safe.
This retreat was a lifeline, I can’t wait for the next one!
I had no idea there were other moms out there that understood exactly what I’m experiencing at home! I’m not alone!
I haven’t been able to connect with God like this in a long time.

Our retreats continue to be the heartbeat of our ministry and differ a bit from other foster and adoption retreats and conferences. Our retreats exist for the sole purpose of loving, supporting, and pampering our moms and reminding them they are loved...by their sisters in the Trenches and by their Heavenly Father.

2017 Retreat

2017 Retreat

Our name was inspired by the knowledge that women need a safe place (the Trench) in the midst of our calling—even battle—to care for the fatherless and others from hard places. We are standing against the flow of culture that elevates ease over sacrifice and self-promotion over servitude. We need each other (being Together) in order to find comfort, solace, wisdom, and understanding on a journey that is foreign to the rest of the world. In the Trench, some are wounded, some are medics, some are seasoned, and some provide fresh, new zeal. There is not only room for us all, but a role for us all.

Becky Raver, Katy Adams (founding members), Corinne Paul, and Monica Wendel along with a precious group of women (Our Team) lovingly invested as well, have continued to grow Trenches as God leads us on. Our online community has blossomed into a vibrant, trusted place to find encouragement, support and resources. We are also striving this year (2018) to develop presentations and training materials for the churches represented in our communities as a way to advocate for foster and adoptive families. We hear and see church families wanting to dive into the Trench with us. It is our call to serve them through encouragement and education.

Retreat Group

Thank you for your interest in Together in the Trenches. Don’t forget to check out our mission, vision and statement of faith.

We would love for you to join us at one of our two retreats in 2019 or another upcoming event! 

Continue to check back in for exciting ministry updates.